The Swimsuit Lesson!

Fort Collins cop's book helps in child sex abuse cases

By Mike McPhee
The Denver Post

Posted: 12/27/2009 01:00:00 AM MST

Fort Collins police recently interviewed a young girl they suspected had been sexually abused, but she wouldn't talk.

On they way out, the cops gave her and her mother a copy of their colleague Sgt. Jon Holsten's book, "The Swimsuit Lesson," in which he explains to children that they should never be touched on any part of their body covered by a swimsuit.

On the way home, her mother noticed the girl in the back seat with her eyes closed, starting to cry. "What's wrong, honey?" the mother asked.

"I need to tell you everything," she said.

They returned to the police station, where she confided to the police exactly what had happened.

Why the change? She said, "Well, the little girl in the book didn't get in trouble by telling, so I figured I wouldn't either."

Holsten, when told that story, knew that the long hours and hard work and travel he'd done for his book was worth it.

Holsten's book, which he self-published four years ago, has sold more than 10,000 copies across the country and in Canada.

On his own — without an agent, a publisher or a publicist — he's managed to put the instructional, beautifully illustrated children's book into 600 elementary schools throughout New York City, and into school districts in Texas, Wyoming, Georgia and parts of Canada.

Holsten got the idea for the book while he was a detective. "About 85 percent of my caseload was child sex crimes," he said. "I was blindsided by the number of cases dropped on my desk. Parents have no clue how often these cases happen. And many don't know how to approach it with their kids. I found a simple way to address a complicated issue."

And it's not just for kids. A 90-year-old woman who saw Holsten on ABC's "Good Morning America" four years ago told her family for the first time that she'd been sexually abused as a child, he said.

Holsten, a 39-year-old father of six kids between the ages of 2 and 14, who works full-time on the midnight shift, has struggled with his project. He had to take out a second mortgage on his house to cover the $25,000 bill for printing and other expenses.

"I've been amazed. Most speakers average sales of their book to about 10 percent of their audiences," Holsten said. "I've been averaging 85 percent. But it's been very difficult to find an agent or a publicist. I don't know why."

Mike McPhee: 303-954-1409 or mmcphee@denverpost.com

Teaching kids about sex abuse

For more information about the $15.99 book, visit theswimsuitlesson.com.

Read more: http://www.denverpost.com/news/ci_14074963#ixzz0awN9YzFC
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Rabbi Nuchem Rosenberg

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Brooklyn, New York

Rabbi Nuchem Rosenberg is a dedicated community activist and advocate on safeguarding Jewish children from sexual abuse in Orthodox Jewish communities and schools.

Check out Rabbi Nuchem Rosenberg's website in Isreal: www.nuchem-rosenberg.com

and www.klafkosher.com

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Rabbi Rosenberg protests in front of the Supreme Court and Brooklyn District Attorney’s office located at 350 Jay St. Brooklyn N.Y.

Exposing Child Abuse Remains Anathema In Haredi-Land

Surfing the net in sin

Dec. 16, 2009
Matthew Wagner , THE JERUSALEM POST

Is it business and political interests or religious puritanism that is the motivation behind an attack led by rabbis on Internet news media sites catering to haredi audiences?

Sources in the haredi world say it's a little bit of both. Rabbis' religious sensibilities are being skillfully manipulated by businessmen and politicians, say the sources, to close down - or at least seriously damage the popularity of - several haredi Internet sites that offer news items, op-eds and talk-backs focusing on internal haredi issues, spiced with pictures and video clips.

Official rabbinic opinion allows surfing the Internet solely for business purposes. According to a recently released study by the Central Bureau of Statistics, in 2008, 55 percent of haredim who own a computer also were connected to Internet, compared to a national average of 92%.

"B'Hadarei Haredim" (in haredi rooms), "Haredim", and "Kikar Shabbat" are the three biggest haredi sites, but there are smaller sites such as "Etrog", "Ladaat" and "Kugel".

All devote the vast majority of their screen space to issues such as new rabbinic decrees, interviews with haredi politicians and coverage of demonstrations.

While the haredi print media tend to deal with "hard news" such as political and diplomatic stories, the haredi Internet sites delve into the depths of internal haredi affairs. And sometimes things get racy.

"Kikar Shabbat" will be posting an op-ed about the sexual dangers of sending young boys to the mikveh (ritual bath), not from haredi mikveh-goers, but from secular perverts who frequent the baths.

True, the piece was carefully censored by the site's editorial staff to take out words like "sex", "backside" or "deviant". Still, the subject of child abuse is strictly taboo in the haredi printed media.

Unlike the three daily haredi newspapers - Hamodia, Yated Ne'eman and Hamevaser - Internet sites are not aligned with any political or rabbinic leadership. This freedom allows them to be much more critical of rabbis, politicians and other haredi figures.

Other subjects treated by the haredi Internet sites that would never be touched by the printed media are what one site manager called "fun" and "entertainment". There are interviews with haredi vocalists, video clips and coverage of other frivolous pastimes.

And the rabbis are not happy.

"For people who stumble into their trap and cooperate with them, we warn you with the strictest of warnings not to look at those stations," said a group of leading rabbis in a statement that has been published over the past week in the three haredi dailies.

"Nor should anyone - individuals, companies or organizations - advertise there. And all of the prohibitions set by rabbis regarding TV apply to Internet stations as well."

The statement was signed by Rabbi Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, Rabbi Haim Kanyevsky, Rabbi Aharon Yehudah Leib Steinman, Rabbi Israel Hager, the son of the Viznitz Rebbe, and Rabbi Nissim Karelitz.

As a result of the announcement Dov Fobrafsky and David Rotenberg, the founders of B'Haderei Haredim, the first haredi Internet site, resigned.

Fobrafsky told The Jerusalem Post that as a Jew faithful to rabbinic leadership he had no other choice.

"Whether or not I understand or agree with their ruling I have to accept it," Fobrafsky said, adding that he was looking to sell his shares in B'Haderei Haredim.

"If I could have at least been given the opportunity to explain my perspective to the rabbis who made the decision I would feel a little better. But I accept their decision nevertheless."

Fobrafsky said that he originally established B'Haderei Haredim eight years ago as an Internet forum that would offer an alternative to secular Internet forums that he said exposed young haredi men and women to negative influences.

Four years ago he added a news section to the forum, which has expanded over the years.

"Haredim are surfing on the Internet and there is really nothing we can do to stop them. My thinking was to provide a clean option to sites that have problematic content or ads. But the rabbis disagree," he said.

Just five months ago, Kikar Shabbat and Haredim set up sites that competed with B'Haderei Haredim.

Now Fobrafsky says he has come to the end of the road.

"Unless the rabbis decide to allow the Internet sites to continue under some kind of rabbinic supervision I will be unable to continue," he said.

Mani Gerah, manager of the Haredim site, said that if his rabbis tell him unequivocally that he must close down his site, he will listen.

"I am in consultation with my rabbis and whatever they tell me I will do."

Fobrafsky, Gerah and others involved with the haredi Internet sites say that while the rabbis' motivations were undoubtedly pure, there were political and business interests involved as well.

For instance, a series of negative news reports were published by the haredi sites against a prominent haredi mayor. They claim that it is not a coincidence that the rabbi of the mayor's city initiated the move against the haredi sites.

Also, the three haredi dailies have a vested interest in seeing the sites closed down.

"The dailies are afraid that they will lose advertising revenues to the haredi sites," said a source knowledgeable about the subject.

However, a senior editor of one of the dailies denied the Internet sites were a danger to revenues.

"Only 10 percent of the people who visit those sites belong to our readership," said the editor.

"The real story is that these sites simply went too far. They deal with subjects that are totally off limits in the haredi community, for instance, matters that have to do with the relations between men and women. They get into details of family purity. These are things that children must not be exposed to. It causes confusion.

"I believe the majority of the haredi public agree that the haredi sites have made themselves unbearable. One of two things will happen: either the sites will clean up their act and be put under rabbinic supervision or the few people who surf the Internet against the will of the rabbis will continue to do so."

This article can also be read at http://www.jpost.com /servlet/Satellite?cid=1260930882895&pagename=JPArticle%2FShowFull
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Agudath Israel Fraud Convention Highlights!

Rabbi Shlomo Mandel still employs and gives refuge to child molester Rabbi Yehuda Nussbaum - having no qualms in endangering boys attending Yeshiva Of Brooklyn. Total hypocrisy. No Shame!

The Borough Park Rebbe invoking the name of G-D.

Lipa Margulies featured in audio/visual presentation titled “when it will be a kiddush Hashem!”

Rabbi Yaakov Perlow, the Novominsker Rebbe and Rosh Agudas Yisroel, was the first of the evening’s speakers to address the session, which was entitled, “Yisroel Asher Becho Espo’or: Promoting K’vod Shomayim in Our Business and Interpersonal Dealings.”

He focused on a number of issues and ideas pertinent to that theme, which, in light of events both past and present, he called a “painful subject.” Noting the increased number of tragedies in the community over recent years and months, the Rebbe exhorted his listeners to introspect in light of the yesurim around them. We must not, he said, attribute sad circumstances to chance or nature but rather recognize that they demand
change of us - and that a “cloud” of chilul Hashem, the “most grave of all transgressions… hangs over us.”

Continue Reading HERE

Effects Of Child Sexual Abuse

Child Sexual Abuse

No. 9; Updated May 2008

Child sexual abuse has been reported up to 80,000 times a year, but the number of unreported instances is far greater, because the children are afraid to tell anyone what has happened, and the legal procedure for validating an episode is difficult. The problem should be identified, the abuse stopped, and the child should receive professional help. The long-term emotional and psychological damage of sexual abuse can be devastating to the child.

Child sexual abuse can take place within the family, by a parent, step-parent, sibling or other relative; or outside the home, for example, by a friend, neighbor, child care person, teacher, or stranger. When sexual abuse has occurred, a child can develop a variety of distressing feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

No child is psychologically prepared to cope with repeated sexual stimulation. Even a two or three year old, who cannot know the sexual activity is wrong, will develop problems resulting from the inability to cope with the overstimulation.

The child of five or older who knows and cares for the abuser becomes trapped between affection or loyalty for the person, and the sense that the sexual activities are terribly wrong. If the child tries to break away from the sexual relationship, the abuser may threaten the child with violence or loss of love. When sexual abuse occurs within the family, the child may fear the anger, jealousy or shame of other family members, or be afraid the family will break up if the secret is told.

A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and can become suicidal.

Some children who have been sexually abused have difficulty relating to others except on sexual terms. Some sexually abused children become child abusers or prostitutes, or have other serious problems when they reach adulthood.

Often there are no obvious external signs of child sexual abuse. Some signs can only be detected on physical exam by a physician.

Sexually abused children may also develop the following:

• unusual interest in or avoidance of all things of a sexual nature
• sleep problems or nightmares
• depression or withdrawal from friends or family
• seductiveness
• statements that their bodies are dirty or damaged, or fear that there is something wrong with them in the genital area
• refusal to go to school
• delinquency/conduct problems
• secretiveness
• aspects of sexual molestation in drawings, games, fantasies
• unusual aggressiveness, or
• suicidal behavior

Child sexual abusers can make the child extremely fearful of telling, and only when a special effort has helped the child to feel safe, can the child talk freely. If a child says that he or she has been molested, parents should try to remain calm and reassure the child that what happened was not their fault. Parents should seek a medical examination and psychiatric consultation.

Parents can prevent or lessen the chance of sexual abuse by:

• Telling children that if someone tries to touch your body and do things that make you feel funny, say NO to that person and tell me right away
• Teaching children that respect does not mean blind obedience to adults and to authority, for example, don't tell children to, Always do everything the teacher or baby-sitter tells you to do
• Encouraging professional prevention programs in the local school system

Sexually abused children and their families need immediate professional evaluation and treatment. Child and adolescent psychiatrists can help abused children regain a sense of self-esteem, cope with feelings of guilt about the abuse, and begin the process of overcoming the trauma. Such treatment can help reduce the risk that the child will develop serious problems as an adult.

For additional information see Facts for Families:
#4 The Depressed Child
#5 Child Abuse
#10 Teen Suicide
#28 Responding to Child Sexual Abuse
#62 Talking to Your Kids about Sex
#73 Self-Injury in Adolescents
#00 Definition of a Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist

See also: Your Child (1998 Harper Collins) / Your Adolescent (1999 Harper Collins)

Click here to order Your Child from Harper Collins
Click here to order Your Adolescent from Harper Collins

Excerpts from Your Child on Sexual Abuse

Many parents are unsure or squeamish about bringing up sexual matters, especially with their children. Yet, there are ways of laying the groundwork so that you can talk to your child without scaring her. Establish an open dialogue about sexual issues early on. If you introduce the subject of sex in a discussion of abuse, there is the danger that the idea of sex may become automatically linked in your child’s mind with danger and anxiety.

If you have fostered in your child a sense of ownership regarding her body, she will likely have an instinct about what is okay for her body and what is not. You build on her natural sense of ownerships of her body by letting her pick out her own clothes or wash herself in her own way. Also, avoid pushing her to kiss or hug other adults when she clearly does not want to.

Finally, when parents treat their children’s bodies with respect, children tent to demand that others treat their bodies in a similar manner. Children who are consistently hit, grabbed, or physically punished at home may feel that adults are entitled to misuse their bodies simply because they are bigger.

Source: http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/child_sexual_abuse

Accused Serial Child Rapist, Baruch Lebovits, May Have Abused Hundreds Of Children. People Aided & Abetted This Beastly Specimen!

Lebovits is rumored to be one of the men who molested a recent suicide.

"borger was in munkatch
lebowitz was in munkatch"

~~~ chaptzem

FailedMessiah Blog Has All The Scoop:

• Baruch Lebovits Accused Of Hundreds Of Counts Of Child Rape And Abuse

• Brother of Nikolsburger Rebbe owns a Brooklyn travel agency.

• Lebovits is rumored to be one of the men who molested a recent suicide.

• His next court appearance is scheduled for December 3, 2009 in front of Judge M. Gary.

• Lebovits Davens in Beth Yakov Burshtin on 12av and 56 street and also is seen daily in Mikvah there.

• Lebovits's travel agency is Best Way Travel, located at 963 55th St, Brooklyn, NY.

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The Jewish Community Online Suicide newlywed 'was sex-abused'

A report that a Brooklyn man who committed suicide two days after his wedding was a victim of sex abuse has riled the Orthodox community.

Mordechai (Motty) Borger, 24, jumped from the seventh-floor terrace of his hotel on November 5. His bride, Mali Gutman, whom he married on Nov 3 after they met through a matchmaker, was asleep in the room.

A spokeswoman for the NYC medical examiner’s office said the death has been ruled a suicide.

Activists working to expose sex-abuse scandals in Orthodox yeshivot said that a report in the New York Post that Mr Borger had been molested as a yeshivah student was accurate — despite angry comments posted from Mr Borger’s acquaintances. The Post, quoting an unnamed source, said that Mr Borger had told his wife about the abuse after the wedding. He was seen on security video footage in the hotel lift appearing agitated.

On the internet, the story prompted a huge number of comments asking questions about Mr Borger’s private life.

“He is a survivor” of sex abuse, said Vicki Polin, founder of the Awareness Centre, a Baltimore-based coalition. She said that Mr Borger had told his parents about the abuse, but they had not sent him to therapy or gone to the police.

Mr Borger’s father, Shmuel, the founder of Amudei Shaish Boys’ Choir, has posted an audio message on the web lamenting his son’s death after a “magnificent wedding” and noting that “a chosson’s week of sheva broches” turned into seven days of mourning.

He urges people to reach out to friends and family. “Don’t be ashamed to say I’m sorry,” he advises.

Ben Hirsch of the group Survivors for Justice said that while he does not know the truth of Mr Borger’s death, he does know of several suicides as a result of sexual abuse.

“The community’s protection of the abuser can sometimes do more damage than the abuse itself.”

Asher Lipner, vice-president of the Jewish Board of Advocates for Children, said that sex-abuse victims can develop post-traumatic stress disorder.

“A young man who is newly married… it could trigger flashbacks to a time when he last experienced sexual contact, which was abuse,” he said.

He said there was growing pressure on the Orthodox community to publicise sex abuse in yeshivot, adding: “There is an incredible amount of pressure put on someone not to talk about what happened. For over 40 years we’ve had in our community 100 per cent denial that the problem exists. When you have a dirty secret and you cover it up, it grows like a cancer.”

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Source URL: http://www.thejc.com/news/world-news/22137/suicide-newlywed-was-sex-abused

Case of Yona Weinberg

BLOOD ON THEIR HANDS!!!

http://www.nycourts.gov/

Case Details - Summary Case Information Court Kings Supreme Court - Criminal Term
Case # 04589-2008
Defendant Weinberg, Yona

Defendant

• Name:Weinberg, Yona
• Birth Year:1978
• NYSID:235728Z
• Status:Violent Felony Offender
  

Incident and Arrest

Incident

• Date:February 20, 2008
• Summons/Ticket #:
• CJTN:59962415H

Arrest

• Date & Time:May 4, 2008 20:56
• Arrest #:K08641055

Officer

• Agency:NYPD
• Command:70
  

Attorney Information

Defense Attorney

• Name:Schechter,
• Type:Private (Retained)
• Court Date:July 7, 2008
• Court Part:11

Assistant District Attorney

• Name:O Donnell,
• Assigned:July 7, 2008
  

Next Appearance

• Date:November 19, 2009
• Court:Kings Supreme Court - Criminal Term
• Judge:Reichbach, G
• Part:27

Docket Sentence

• Description:CVA Fee Imposed $25
• DNA Fee Imposed $50
• Imprisonment for 1 Years
• Surcharge Imposed $175
• SOR Fee Waived
  

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Case Details - Summary

Case Information Court Kings Criminal Court
Case # 2008KN044924
Defendant Weinberg, Yona

Defendant

• Name:Weinberg, Yona
• Birth Year:1978
• NYSID:235728Z
• Status:
  

Incident and Arrest

Incident

• Date:June 3, 2008
• Summons/Ticket #:
• CJTN:63031782R

Arrest

• Date & Time:June 17, 2008 08:45
• Arrest #:K08654460

Officer

• Agency:NYPD
• Command:70
  

Attorney Information

Defense Attorney

• Name:
• Type:Private (Retained)
• Court Date:June 17, 2008
• Court Part:APAR3

Assistant District Attorney

• Name:Hynes,
• Assigned:November 2, 2009
  

Next Appearance

• Date:April 30, 2010
• Court:Kings Criminal Court
• Part:JURY1

Docket Sentence

No Sentence Information on File

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Case Details - Appearances

Case Information Court Kings Supreme Court - Criminal Term
Case # 04589-2008
Defendant Weinberg, Yona

Date/ Part	Judge	Calendar Section	Arraignment/ Hearing Type	Court Reporter	Outcome/ Release Status
11/19/2009 27	Reichbach, G	MISCELLANEOUS	No Type
11/05/2009 27	Reichbach, G	MISCELLANEOUS	No Type	Swasey, K	Adjourned Remanded
10/22/2009 27	Reichbach, G	MISCELLANEOUS	No Type	Swasey, K	Adjourned Remanded
09/30/2009			No Type		Bail Paid Bond $500,000 (Bond)
09/30/2009 27	Reichbach, G	MISCELLANEOUS	No Type	Maltese, T	Adjourned Same Bail Conditions
09/29/2009 UNS	Reichbach, G	MISCELLANEOUS	No Type	Maltese, T	Adjourned Bond $500,000 Cash $500,000 (Not Posted)
09/29/2009 27	Reichbach, G	SENTENCES	Sentencing	Maltese, T	Sentence Imposed
09/16/2009 27	Reichbach, G	SENTENCES	Sentencing	Williams, S	Adjourned For Sentencing - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
09/09/2009 27	Reichbach, G	SENTENCES	Sentencing	Manning, D	Adjourned For Sentencing - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
06/24/2009 27	Reichbach, G	ON TRIAL	Jury Trial	Ganzman, L	Tried And Found Guilty - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
06/23/2009 27	Reichbach, G	ON TRIAL	Jury Trial	Ganzman, L	Trial Continued - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
06/22/2009 27	Reichbach, G	ON TRIAL	Jury Trial	Ganzman, L	Trial Continued - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
06/17/2009 27	Reichbach, G	TRIALS AM	Trial Begins	Sherman, R	Trial Continued - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
06/16/2009 27	Reichbach, G	HEARINGS	Felony Hearing	Sherman, R	Hearing Completed - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
06/15/2009 27	Reichbach, G	TRIALS AM	Felony Hearing	Sherman, R	Hearing Continued - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
06/15/2009 40	Murphy, Martin	TRIALS AM	No Type	Wilkes, S	Transfer To Another Court Part - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
05/26/2009 40	Murphy, Martin	TRIALS AM	No Type	Maltese, T	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
04/20/2009 40	Murphy, Martin	TRIALS AM	No Type	Bini, C	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
03/11/2009 40	Murphy, Martin	TRIALS AM	No Type	Maltese, T	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
02/04/2009 11	Mullen, C	TRIALS AM	No Type	Blanding, Walker-bailey,	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
12/17/2008 11	Mullen, C	TRIALS AM	No Type	Capuano,	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
11/05/2008 11	Mullen, C	TRIALS AM	No Type	Price, P	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
10/15/2008 11	Mullen, C	TRIALS AM	No Type	Shifffman, M	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
09/23/2008 SP 10	Firetog, N	TRIALS AM	No Type	Cassidy, M	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
09/17/2008 11	Mullen, C	TRIALS AM	No Type	Salerno, L Smith, D	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
07/30/2008 11	Mullen, C	TRIALS AM	No Type	Geraldi, V	Adjourned - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
07/07/2008 11	Mullen, C	ARRAIGNMENTS	Regular	Brown, P	Pled Not Guilty - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Cash $50,000 (Cash)
05/16/2008 GRAND JURY		MISCELLANEOUS	No Type		True Bill - Temporary Order Of Protection Issued Bail Continued
05/06/2008			No Type		Bail Paid Cash $50,000 (Cash)

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Case Details - Charges

Case Information Court Kings Supreme Court - Criminal Term
Case # 04589-2008
Defendant Weinberg, Yona

Charge	Detail	Disposition/Sentence
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 5 Date Added 05/16/2008	Acquitted
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 8 Date Added 05/16/2008	Acquitted
PL 130.80 1B **TOP CHARGE**	D Felony, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge Description Course Sex Conduct-2nd:>17<13 Indictment Count 1	Acquitted
PL 260.10 01	A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Act Manr Injur Child <> Indictment Count 10 Date Added 05/16/2008	Acquitted
PL 110-130.60 02	B Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Attempted Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 9 Date Added 05/16/2008	Acquitted
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 6 counts, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 14 Date Added 05/16/2008	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 7 Months - Stayed
PL 260.10 01	A Misdemeanor, 2 counts, Arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Act Manr Injur Child <> Indictment Count 4	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 6 Months - Consecutive To Indictment Count 2 - Stayed
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 6 counts, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 11 Date Added 05/16/2008	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 7 Months - Stayed
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 6 counts, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 12 Date Added 05/16/2008	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 7 Months - Stayed
PL 260.10 01	A Misdemeanor, 2 counts, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge Description Act Manr Injur Child <> Indictment Count 7	Acquitted
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 6 counts, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 13 Date Added 05/16/2008	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 7 Months - Stayed
PL 260.10 01	A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Act Manr Injur Child <> Indictment Count 17 Date Added 05/16/2008	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 7 Months - Stayed
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Arrest charge, Arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 2	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 6 Months - Consecutive To Indictment Count 4 - Stayed
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 6 counts, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 15 Date Added 05/16/2008	Tried & Found Guilty, Imprisonment For 7 Months - Stayed
PL 260.10 01	A Misdemeanor, 2 counts, Arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Act Manr Injur Child <> Indictment Count 3	Acquitted
PL 260.10 01	A Misdemeanor, 2 counts, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge Description Act Manr Injur Child <> Indictment Count 6	Acquitted
PL 130.60 02	A Misdemeanor, 6 counts, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge Description Sx Abse:sx Cntct W/ind<14 Indictment Count 16 Date Added 05/16/2008

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Case Details - Appearances

Case Information Court Kings Criminal Court
Case # 2008KN044924
Defendant Weinberg, Yona

Date/ Part	Judge	Calendar Section	Arraignment/ Hearing Type	Court Reporter	Outcome/ Release Status
04/30/2010 JURY1		ACD	No Type

Case Details - Charges

Case Information Court Kings Criminal Court
Case # 2008KN044924
Defendant Weinberg, Yona

Charge	Detail	Disposition/Sentence
PL 215.50 03 **TOP CHARGE**	A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge Description Crim Contempt-2nd:disobey Crt

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Is Yona Weinberg a Sociopath?

Summary Of Sociopaths

1. They make you feel sorry for them.

2. They make you feel worried or afraid.

3. They give you the impression you owe them.

4. They make you feel used.

5. Sometimes you suspect they don't care about you.

6. They lie to you and deceive you.

7. They take a lot from you and give back very little.

8. They make you feel guilty (and use that to manipulate you).

9. They take advantage of your kindness.

10. They are easily bored and need constant stimulation.

11. They don't take responsibility but place blame elsewhere.

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http://www.youmeworks.com/sociopaths.html

WHEN YOU SAY THE WORD "sociopath" most people think of serial killers. But although many serial killers are sociopaths, there are far more sociopaths leading ordinary lives. Chances are you know a sociopath. I say "ordinary lives," but what they do is far from ordinary. Sociopaths are people without a conscience. They don't have the normal empathy the rest of us take for granted. They don't feel affection. They don't care about others. But most of them are good observers, and they have learned how to mimic feelings of affection and empathy remarkably well.

Most people with a conscience find it very difficult to even imagine what it would be like to be without one. Combine this with a sociopath's efforts to blend in, and the result is that most sociopaths go undetected.

Because they go undetected, they wreak havoc on their family, on people they work with, and on anyone who tries to be their friend. A sociopath deceives, takes what he (or she) wants, and hurts people without any remorse. Sociopaths don't feel guilty. They don't feel sorry for what they've done. They go through life taking what they want and giving nothing back. They manipulate and deceive and convincingly lie without the slightest second thought. They leave a path of confusion and upset in their wake.

Who are these people? Why are they the way they are? Apparently it has little to do with upbringing. Many studies have been done trying to find out what kind of childhood leads to sociopathy. So far, nothing looks likely. They could be from any kind of family. It is partly genetic, and partly mystery.

But researchers have found that the brains of sociopaths function differently than normal people. And their brains function in a way that makes their emotional life unredeemably shallow. And yet they are capable of mimicking emotions like professional actors.

Sociopaths and psychopaths are the same thing. The original name for this disorder was "psychopath" but the general public and media confused it with "psycho" and "psychotic" so in the 1930s the name was changed to sociopath. Recently the media again caused a misperception that sociopaths were always serial killers, so now many call the condition "antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)."

But some experts think ASPD includes many things like narcissism, paranoia, etc., including sociopathy. And others think ASPD is the same thing as sociopathy, but the diagnostic criteria used to describe and diagnose ASPD is different than sociopathy, so for the purposes of this article, we'll stay with the term "sociopathy."

Sociopaths don't have normal affection with other people. They don't feel attached to others. They don't feel love. And that is why they don't have a conscience. If you harmed someone, even someone you didn't know, you would feel guilt and remorse. Why? Because you have a natural affinity for other human beings. You know how it feels to suffer, to fear, to feel anguish. You care about others.

If you hurt someone you love, the guilt and remorse would be very bad because of your affection for him or her. Take that attachment and affection away and you take away remorse, guilt, and any kind of normal feelings of fairness. That's a sociopath.

HOW COMMON ARE THEY?

Some researchers say only about one percent of the general population are sociopaths. Others put the figure at three or four percent. The reason the estimates vary is first of all, not everyone has been tested, of course, but also because sociopathy is a sliding scale. A person can be very sociopathic or only slightly, and anywhere in between. It is a continuum. So how sociopathic does someone have to be before you call them a sociopath? That's a tough question and it is why the estimates vary.

But clearly sociopaths are fairly common and not easy to detect. Even when the evidence is staring you in the face, you may have difficulty admitting that someone you know, someone you trusted, even someone you love, is a sociopath. But the sooner you admit it, the faster your life can return to normal. Face the facts and you may save yourself a lot of suffering.

Most of the information in this article is from two excellent books I strongly recommend: Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us, and The Sociopath Next Door. The first book is by Robert Hare, who has made his career out of studying sociopaths. He is one of the leading, if not the leading expert on the subject. His insights and examples are compelling. But because Hare has done most of his research in prisons, sometimes his book seems a little removed from everyday reality. We don't very often run into rapists and cold-blooded killers. The second book, by Martha Stout, brings it to the everyday level, describing the kinds of people we are likely to meet in ordinary life.

HOW TO KNOW

The big question is, of course, how can you know whether someone is a sociopath or not? It is a difficult question and even experts on the subject can be fooled. If you suspect that someone close to you is a sociopath, I suggest you read both of the books I mentioned and think hard about it. Compare that person to the other people in your life. Ask yourself these questions:

1. Do you often feel used by the person?

2. Have you often felt that he (or she) doesn't care about you?

3. Does he lie and deceive you?

4. Does he tend to make contradictory statements?

5. Does he tend to take from you and not give back much?

6. Does he often appeal to pity? Does he seem to try to make you feel sorry for him?

7. Does he try to make you feel guilty?

8. Do you sometimes feel he is taking advantage of your good nature?

9. Does he seem easily bored and need constant stimulation?

10. Does he use a lot of flattery? Does he interact with you in a way that makes you feel flattered even if he says nothing overtly complimentary?

11. Does he make you feel worried? Does he do it obviously or more cleverly and sneakily?

12. Does he give you the impression you owe him?

13. Does he chronically fail to take responsibility for harming others? Does he blame everyone and everything but himself?

And does he do these things far more than the other people in your life? If you answered "yes" to many of these, you may be dealing with a sociopath. For sure you're dealing with someone who isn't good for you, whatever you want to call him.

I like Martha Stout's way of detecting sociopaths: "If ... you find yourself often pitying someone who consistently hurts you or other people, and who actively campaigns for your sympathy, the chances are close to one hundred percent that you are dealing with a sociopath."

WHAT DO THEY WANT?

This is an interesting question. Of course most of our purposes are strongly influenced by our connections and affections with others. Our relationships with others, and our love for them, give us most of the meaning in life. So if a sociopath doesn't have these things, what is left? What kind of purposes do they have?

The answer is chilling: They want to win. Take away love and relationships and all you have left is winning the game, whatever the game is. If they are in business, it is becoming rich and defeating competitors. If it is sibling rivalry, it is defeating the sibling. If it is a contest, the goal is to dominate. If a sociopath is the envious sort, winning would be making the other lose, or fail, or be frustrated or embarrassed.

A sociopath's goal is to win. And he is willing to do anything at all to win.

Sociopaths have nothing else to think about, so they can be very clever and conniving. Sociopaths are not busy being concerned with relationships or moral dilemmas or conflicting feelings, so they have much more time to think about clever ways to gain your trust and stab you in the back, and how do it without anyone knowing what's happening.

One of the questions in the list above was about boredom. This is a real problem for sociopaths and they seem fanatically driven to prevent boredom. The reason it looms so large for them (and seems so strange to us) is that our relationships with people occupy a good amount of our time and attention and interest us intensely. Take that away and all you have is "playing to win" which is rather shallow and empty in comparison. So boredom is a constant problem for sociopaths and they have an incessant urge to keep up a level of stimulation, even negative stimulation (drama, worry, upset, etc.).

And here I might mention that the research shows sociopaths don't feel emotions the same way normal people do. For example, they don't experience fear as unpleasant. This goes a long way to explaining the inexplicable behavior you'll see in sociopaths. Some feelings that you and I might find intolerable might not bother them at all.

HOW TO DEAL WITH A SOCIOPATH

There is no known cure or therapy for sociopathy. In fact, some evidence suggests that therapy makes them worse because they use it to learn more about human vulnerabilities they can then exploit. They learn how to manipulate better and they learn better excuses that others will believe.

Given all that, there is only one solution for dealing with a sociopath: Get him or her completely out of your life for good. This seems radical, and of course, you want to be fairly sure your diagnosis is correct, but you need to protect yourself from the drain on your time, attention, money, and good attitude. Healing or helping a sociopath is a pointless waste of your life. That is not your mission. It's not your responsibility. You have your own goals and your own life, and those are your responsibility.

In Hare's book, he says before you diagnose someone as a sociopath, he recommends you get a full clinical diagnostic, including an extensive interview with the sociopath by a qualified psychotherapist, plus interviews with the sociopath's bosses, co-workers, friends, and family. Yeah, right. Good luck on that one. I agree, that would be ideal, but if you can get a sociopath to submit to an interview, I would be astonished. So you'll have to do the best you can with the information you can get.

I don't recommend you tell anyone you have diagnosed him as a sociopath. In fact, I strongly urge you not to. I don't even know if it's a good idea to tell anyone about your conclusion. Just get the sociopath out of your life with as little fanfare as you can. The only exception I would make to this rule is if the sociopath is making someone else's life a living hell, it seems wrong to leave her to the wolves while you slink off. I don't recommend you try to convince your friend she is dealing with a sociopath. I recommend that you simply say you got a lot of insight from this or that book or whatever, and let your friend draw her own conclusions. It is not your mission to save your friend, either. Tell her what you know and if she ignores your warning, that's her problem, not yours. Because you said something, she may figure it out eventually.

If this all sounds cold or heartless, maybe you're not dealing with a sociopath, or maybe she or he hasn't driven you to the point of madness (yet). But remember what the solution is; you may someday need it.

And besides, the point of all this dismal information is so you no longer need to think about such negative things and so you can turn your attention to positive, life-affirming, uplifting goals of your own.

You may also want to check out a support group for people who are in a relationship with a sociopath:

LoveFraud.com

Sociopathic Style

Safe Relationships

If you have a sociopath in your life, you should take it seriously. Learn what you need to learn, and if you are pretty sure you have correctly identified one, do what needs to be done to protect yourself and your non-sociopathic loved ones. Then get back to your own life. Accomplish your goals. Nurture your relationships. Learn and grow and enjoy yourself.

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Molest defendant: Kid came on to me

BY Scott Shifrel
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER

Tuesday, June 23rd 2009, 8:45 PM

A Bar Mitzvah tutor and social worker charged with molesting four teens took the stand Tuesday to deny it - and even said one of the youngsters came on to him.

Yona Weinberg, 31, of Flatbush, said one teen asked him about Viagra and sex toys while he was praying and teaching Talmud, and another tried to grab his crotch.

He denied abusing the teens.

"It never happened," the married father of four said of one boy's account of a sexual proposition.

He said another boy put his hand on his right leg in a van.

Later, the boy said, "He had feelings for me. I explained to him that they were not mutual. I told him he would eventually outgrow them."

Weinberg, a licensed social worker who is now in real estate, lost his composure only when defense lawyer Marvin Schecter asked if he had called any of the families since his May 2008 arrest.

"I called at least two other patients to inform them I was no longer allowed to work with children," he said, lowering his voice, taking off his glasses and wiping his eyes.

Cross-examination is slated for Wednesday.

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2009/06/24/2009-06-24_molest_defendant_kid_came_on_to_me.html?print=1&page=all#ixzz0WtJ98I1k

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(05/05/08 – Initial BBT Report)

Yona Weinberg, 29, a teacher’s assistant at a Jewish School in the Flatbush section of Brooklyn, New York has been arrested on allegations of molesting two boys, 13 and 14-years-old, during their religious studies at a synagogue school.

Weinberg, who is not a rabbi, was arrested Sunday night on charges of sex abuse and endangering the welfare of a child.

The victims, who are brothers, said Weinberg touched their private parts on more than one occasion during their study sessions.

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http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/Weinberg_Yona.html

Yona Weinberg, MSW, LCSW

Licensed Social Worker / Bar Mitzvah Tutor

Khal Beth Abraham - (Flatbush) Brooklyn, NY

Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services.- (Flatbush) Brooklyn, NY

Arrested after allegations were made of improperly touching several boys, aged 12 and 14. A two of the boys stated they were abused while Weinberg was assisting them with their religious studies at Khal Beth Abraham Congregation. Other victims include clients from Weinberg's work as a licensed social worker for the Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services.

The indictment charges Weinberg with Course of Sexual Conduct Against a Child in the Second Degree, nine counts of Sexual Abuse in the Second Degree, Attempted Sexual Abuse in the Second Degree, and six counts of Endangering the Welfare of a Child. If convicted, he faces up to seven years in prison.

The victims range in age from 12 to 14 and some were Weinberg's students, from the Khal Beth Abraham synagogue, where Weinberg gave Bar Mitzvah lessons.

If anyone has a photograph of Yona Weinberg, please forward it to: The Awareness Center.

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